This month, we've been delving deep into managing changes, especially those that impact our little ones. But today, let's shift the focus to something equally important: managing the changes within ourselves as parents.
Parenting is a journey of constant change. From the moment we become parents, our lives undergo a seismic shift. It's exhilarating, challenging, and sometimes overwhelming. As we raise our kids, we're not just nurturing them; we're also evolving ourselves. Nothing is stagnant. Each child is unique, and just when you think you've got the hang of parenting, a new phase begins, and you find yourself adapting all over again.
I recently came across a thought-provoking idea: we willingly take on the burdens of parenthood. Yes, parenting is tough, exhausting, and occasionally frustrating. Yet, it's also incredibly rewarding. As parents, we give up certain things, postpone dreams, and adjust our priorities. And while it's easy to focus on the challenges, let's not forget the joy, fulfillment, and growth that parenthood brings into our lives.
Empty nesters, the term for couples whose children have grown and flown the nest, often face yet another major change. After dedicating years to raising children, some find themselves at a crossroads, rediscovering their relationship without the constant demands of parenting. So, while it can be a time of freedom and renewed connection, it can also bring feelings of loss and isolation. It's absolutely crucial to take the time while your kiddos are growing up, to focus on the relationship that will remain and give your children the example of parents who love and remain interested in each other. It is so important to navigate this transition with open communication, understanding, and a renewed focus on each other.
Years ago I had a male co-worker whose parents split up after the kids were gone. They had done their duty, but when the time came, they found they no longer had anything in common. I sat with this friend as he literally cried before me, lamenting the need to separate holiday and birthday celebrations. It had become very difficult explaining to his own children why grandma and grandpa would no longer both come to their parties, celebrations and performances. Be so very careful to treasure that relationship and live life in joy and kindness. The foundation is built while your kiddos are young.
Change can be hard for us as we watch our kids grow. We long for a good night’s sleep, but as they grow we will miss those quiet moments late at night or early in the morning when they are snuggled in our arms as we tenderly sing a favorite lullaby. We struggle with them finding new and unsafe things to get into as they become more mobile but are so proud as they are able to walk and do that adorable toddler run.
It can be a tough transition when they no longer climb onto your lap and snuggle in, or when that shout of “love you” as they run into school disappears. All of this is a transition that can be difficult. But just as our children need to manage the changes in their lives, we must manage also. And how we manage them will have a huge impact on how they will manage.
Remember, our children are always watching, learning from how we manage change, how we face challenges, and adapt. They pick up on our resilience, our values, and our approach to life's ups and downs. So, let's strive to be the heroes our kids deserve. Let's embrace change with grace, curiosity, and love, setting a positive example for our children to follow.
Until then, let's cherish the quiet moments, celebrate our children's growth, and find joy in every step of this incredible parenting journey. See you next week! 🌟
