Episode 103: Unleashing the Parenetpreneur; Conquering Business and Babies with Bridget Hom

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You're listening to Episode 103 of Imperfect Heroes - Insights Into Parenting, the perfect podcast for imperfect parents looking to find joy in their experience of raising children in an imperfect world. And I'm your host DJ Stutz.

Welcome to an insightful episode of the Imperfect Heroes podcast, and today we have an incredible guest joining us the unstoppable force known as Bridget Hom. Now, let me tell you, Bridget is a true master at multitasking. Not only does she conquer the daily challenges of parenting, with a sprinkle of humor and a dash of caffeine, but she also possesses the superhuman ability to build a thriving business while her boys are busy unleashing their adorable mam. Bridget understands the struggle of managing sticky fingers while also crafting a successful entrepreneurial journey. She's faced it all, from conference calls to epic battles with overflowing laundry baskets while brainstorming her next big idea. And her stories are going to have you nodding in recognition and shaking your head in solidarity and realizing that you are not alone. This is exhilarating. Yet, it's a challenging journey. But Bridget is more than just a master of chaos management. And I mean this, she is a true inspiration. And in today's episode, we dive deep into the art of finding balance while building a business and raising kids. She'll share her secret tips for carving out time setting boundaries, and harnessing that superpower of resilience. And of course, she'll infuse it all with her signature humor that's going to leave you laughing and feeling a little less alone in the madness. And so whether you're a budding entrepreneur seeking guidance, or a parent desperately trying to figure out how to fit 36 hours into a 24 hour day. This episode was made for you, and Bridget homme will have you laughing and learning and realizing that it's possible to pursue your dreams while still being an incredible parent. So get ready to embrace the beautiful mess of building a business and raising kids. As Bridgette takes us on a wild ride of insights, laughter in a few crazy moments along the way. So grab your superhero cape, or maybe just a superhero sized cup of Pepsi zero, and get ready to be inspired by the remarkable, Bridget home. There's so much to learn. So let's get started. 

Welcome, everyone, and thanks for joining Imperfect Heroes - Insights Into Parenting. And I have an amazing guest today. And she is worth so much. I hope you're listening very carefully. Her name is Bridget Hom. And we're going to be talking today about the possibilities of launching a business as a parent and still putting your kids first your little guys first because I know that a lot of people think oh, I've got little kids, I have to put it off until they get older. And there are so many ways that you can do this and be successful. And still give your kids all the attention that you choose to give them. So anyway, Bridget, thank you for being a part of today's program. Absolutely.

Bridget Hom  3:47  
DJ, thanks for having me.

DJ Stutz  3:49  
Oh, any time? Well, I mean, just look at your energy. I love it just so positive and happy. And and that's the vibes I go for myself. So Bridgette, let's talk a little bit about those possibilities. What kind of businesses are we talking about? And then how do you manage to find time? Even if you're just working remotely at home for someone else that is often the same kinds of challenges? They crossover I think in many ways, what are some of the things that we want to just first ask ourselves as we are moving forward with some of these decisions?

Bridget Hom  4:21  
That's a great question in it's really asking yourself the questions. Does my time that I have right now on are all of my roles? What spending my time isn't honoring all of my roles right now? Or do I lay awake in bed at night thinking about how I can make more time right and all of us have the same amount of time in every capacity person who's the billionaire, the person who's working nine to five, we have the same amount of time to choose how we're going to honor our roles, our wife or husband role, Mom role, Dad role, etc. So asking yourself, are you happy with how you're spending your time in your family life right now?

DJ Stutz  4:57  
Yeah, and I think that that's a big deal, but Because I think oftentimes when we have our little guys, we're talking about building that foundation of attitudes in life. And so it's in those same age ranges that we're discussing with imperfect heroes, from birth to eight, that they are deciding, am I going to be a victim? Or am I going to be someone who rises above and I'm is resilient and is able to learn lessons from, you know, hard times. And so the mantra, we do hard things, or mommy will fix it.

Bridget Hom  5:36  
We're honest with ourselves, we go probably to both of those. Yeah, exactly. It's resilient, and then being like, Oh, my mom's gonna fix this. Mom's gonna fix this. And we vacillate between the two, how can we be more of helping them to be resilient self matter? Right. And it always starts with us first, where they're first heroes, so to speak as parents. We're the people that they're watching closely, right?

DJ Stutz  6:00  
All very closely.

Bridget Hom  6:03  
Yeah, exactly. Especially my middle child. Oh, he's watching. He can read everything that I say. He's incredible. That's a fun story. A lots of fun stories there. I'll share later. But maybe I'll share a little bit about in launching my business originally, what it looks like, because it wasn't perfect. And it was, my kids were watching me, and actually very closely because it was in the Zoom business world. So they were very close. They were outside the door, sometimes inside the door while I was little. But it really started in a very imperfect way, which was, I was on my way to getting zoomed divorced. I just moved out of my big beautiful home. And my three boys and I moved into an apartment, and virtual school became a reality. And my job in the seniors industry in 2020, virtually evaporated because you couldn't go near a senior citizen at that time. I had no source of income coming in. I'm at home with my three boys. We're starting to make new recipes. I mean, there was one time we did laundry that he put on 10 socks and tried to walk around the house. It was we just had weird experiences together. But at that time, I really had to figure out how can I honor my mom role and still make money while doing this? What does this look like? And I got a random zoom link. And I don't know about you, but I didn't know what a zoom was in 2022. And I showed up. I showed up on a Thursday morning at 8am. And I wasn't sure what to hitch some guy goes Bridgette home, will you please give your 30 seconds and I'm like, dang it he mispronounced my last name, or my last name. And I'm like, do I pitch my placement agency? Or do I pitch register freedom coaching, which was just a side hustle. At the time, I had only had two clients. And I was just trying to figure out what to do. I was really in a place of fear, anxiety, and just Yeah, well, what do I do next? As a parent especially, which is a fear, you know, you're in fear mode. You're like, I have to make moves. And so what came out was Raja hom here with French to freedom coaching, are you ready to level up? And I had six clients within six weeks. My 90 Day Program was born. My eight week self paced conferences, live speaking engagements, podcasts like this. My book stuck on ready. And my kids were a huge part of that because I decided that I wasn't going to work past 2pm. Yeah, yeah. Because I just knew that I wanted to do and be more than just a life and business coach. I wanted to honor that role of mom in the process fulfilled at the same time and I can fulfill them as children growing every single day, every day.

DJ Stutz  8:42  
Gosh, they grow. They do. They're not the same today as they were yesterday.

Bridget Hom  8:47  
No, no, especially the middle one. I love my middle one. You have to understand he actually got out of first grade who goes Mom, I'm going to be an entrepreneur. Oh, really? Truly. I mean, he's incredible. We'll be in line at Starbucks. And he's he's hosting most decisive one. He's screaming out the window. Hey, do you follow my mom Bridget home on Instagram? Thank you. He's, let me tell you he's so innovative. I mean, he he sells his drawings at parties we go to you know, like he is just Impressive, impressive and innovative. And it's always the children. So are my other two boys. I have three savages, I mean, Sweet children, boys, you know, who is the one who's most action oriented is like, I'm going to do this. I'm going to do this. You're just going to reaffirm that you're going to be extremely successful in life of you and see all your good qualities right now.

DJ Stutz  9:48  
Yeah, exactly. I love the way you're doing that though. And you're thinking it through and reminding yourself this is all gonna be good, trust me.

Bridget Hom  9:58  
You know what's so funny? I actually Got that technique from a mom who I was friends with her son in sixth grade. And he actually told me she's a CEO of a really successful company today. And she shared this from the stage. She said, You know, my middle son, she has a Kentucky accent, my middle son used to drive me crazy. And she said, but I would reaffirm when you would call, Bridgette when you would call him and say, Hey, is he there? Is he is Michael there? And and she would say this to me, she would say, you mean the incredible, talented, handsome, Michael? We mean, the wonderful, you know, and she would go on and on? And I'm like, yes, yes. I'd like to speak to him, please. Thank you. And you know, what she would do that to sell herself on how exceptional her son was. And the truth is, we got to talk ourselves into client, right? We sell ourselves everything. So you got to sell yourself on who they're becoming and what they're capable of. Every day,

DJ Stutz  11:04  
every day, every moment

every hour.

Exactly. So you were trying to decide and work you decided you're not going to work beyond two. And so what did you do? I mean, it seems like you're really needing to be heavily involved with systems, routines. And then how do you manage when, you know, three boys? Bumps happen? So do you have a plan for that? I mean, how did you work all of that,

Bridget Hom  11:33  
you know, the beautiful part is, when I launched my business, I ended up actually moving to Indiana during time, which I called the C days, the reinvention evolution, I actually moved to Indiana, so I could put my kids on a school bus. So in doing that, I was able to continue creating, and launching my coaching business while still honoring my mom role and have them in school. So but you know, sometimes I will be honest, there were those times where I'm like, Oh, I could do one more media post, I could work with one more client, if I just worked a little later, like everyone else seems to be doing. They're working the 10 to 15 hour days, and they're seeing amazing results. They're making more money. What are they happy? Yeah. Are they honoring all their rules, that's what it comes down to. And so when I would feel that tug, that push, when I had hard months, and started as a startup company, there are hard months and you want to budget, you're investing your time and your money in the right things. And so I just would constantly remind myself, No, it won't honor my roles. If I work past two, if I work past two, it won't honor my roles. And those times, and I will be honest, like for any parents who are listening right now, maybe you have a home based business, or you want that, and and you're thinking like, how can I get everything into that timeframe. And you absolutely can, you can do those things, everything within that timeframe, it actually increases your credibility and your authority. Because you say I would work with you, I'll give you all my expertise. during this timeframe. This is when I'm available, you'll be amazed at the people who do respect that they you'll receive self. Because when you go out of alignment, which alignment is the greatest form of energy we have, when you go out of alignment with yourself. It doesn't honor your roles, and you show up in something I call low deserving stability. Low deserve ability is where you start doing things that are out of alignment with yourself. Like you start, I'll have a client, yeah, I'll coach you at seven or 8pm when I'm supposed to be reading my kids stories, right? Instead of having family dinner, I'm gonna go to that networking meeting. And now there are times when that's okay, there are I'll go to a networking meeting once a month after my normal hours. But it's like it's about that alignment. And I found that the law observability which will helps parents which helps business owners and entrepreneurs in identifying Okay, what do I believe I deserve the core of our identity, we create our reality, our relationships and our business based on what we believe we deserve, not what we desire. And you know, the sabotaged individual is always sitting in what they want and what they desire, right? You know, what the high deserve ability, entrepreneur business owner, a parent sits in what they believe they deserve, and they're always focused on alignment. What's going to honor my roles today.

DJ Stutz  14:38  
I, you know, I love making that a priority. But that's going to require sitting down and really looking at what are my priorities, instead of just dealing with them as they come to you. But really making a conscious effort to define I want to be able to work this much I want to have this much time My family, if the kids get involved in different things, how important is it for me to be there at that game or at that performance or whatever it is, but I'm gonna, I'm here to tell you, it's readily important that you're there for those. And so how are you going to really make those things happen. And if you don't have those priorities already identified, then you're kind of blowing with the wind, whichever is coming your way. And it's like, oh, but that would make be extra this or that. But then I have to miss Joey's soccer game or whatever it is. And so if you already have those predetermined, it makes us decisions so much easier.

Bridget Hom  15:38  
Absolutely. And you're so right, because what are we saying, If we miss those soccer games, or football games, what are we saying? We're saying that work is more valuable than you Aereo. But it's not something to hire sabotage on your mental team about as a parent, it's just to higher awareness. Yes. And one of the strategies in my in my 90 day find your freedom program is that you create your priorities based on your roles. And so for example, I usually have the top five priorities based on your roles. And so I look at I have a Bridget role, I have a wife role, I got remarried, actually. I met him in zoom business, networking, crazy story. So I have a role, I have a wife role, I have a mom role, I have a business owner role, and I have a coach role. So that's actually six, so five or six priorities a day based on your roles. And so look at your roles, and then attach a priority to each one of those. And you'll, you'll be able to have a work life balance, because you're always prioritizing all of your roles first, and the things you need to do for those. And it doesn't have to be anything big for the wife role, it could just be giving an affirmation, or giving a quick, back rub, write something simple writing a little thank you card. It doesn't have to be it just has to be intentional. We often say it's about time, like I have to give this person 30 minutes or 40 minutes, as a busy parent, sometimes giving 10 minutes of an intentionality and setting a timer that you want to break free from like I have to dinner, blah, blah, blah, all these other things, setting a 10 minute timer and sitting down and just creating a little book with my six year old coloring. No doing something simple sitting with my 12 year old and just listening. Yeah, but setting the timer and putting it on silent, so they don't hear it. But that intention, intentionality is what really fuels us in our roles as parents who are in business, we have to work, we have to work. The other side of that token is we want our kids to see that we're working diligently and we're working hard. And we are making money. And we are providing we want them to see that as well.

DJ Stutz  17:56  
That is so important. I'm so glad you brought that up. And I'm glad you brought up the timer because it not only works for the time we're spending with our kids, but it can also put a limit on geez, I just need 10 more minutes to finish this, you know. And so you give the kids they're in charge of the timer. You give them that timer with the 10 minutes. And let me tell you, the minute that time bomb timer is up. You're done.

Bridget Hom  18:21  
Yep, yep, I know. My middle one likes that. Actually, yeah, yes.

DJ Stutz  18:26  
Those middle kids yeah,

I've got a middle one, too. I've got five. And my middle is my daughter, Rocky. And they're all grown up now and have their own families. But it was just really funny how she was that typical peacemaker, middle child. But she was also one who really needed and I think still needs that connection. And she's the one that will go out and do things and like retell a bathroom. And yeah, so she'll push herself beyond our comfort zone all the time. I'm really amazed with her.

Bridget Hom  19:00  
Yeah, and it's so incredible. Sometimes, it's easy for us. I was talking to some parents of teenagers earlier today. And and I do actually take a few teenagers here and there to self leadership and self managing and proud parent moment. Sidenote, my son's sixth grade teacher actually told me at a parent teacher conference that he's an excellent self manager. Wow, just like such an amazing moment. But right, and but anyways, going back to these parents that are the teenager, I said, your roles shift as a parent based on their age and based on their maturity. And so when you get to that place of transitioning from them going from you being the authoritative parent and giving them statements all the time, you should do this, that the other. You want to shift into asking them questions versus giving them statements and see if it's gifting those roles. And so if you're like you shouldn't be doing your homework you say, what homework Do you want? Do tonight to achieve your goals, like and so shifting those statements into questions helps your child to learn how to self manage and self lead.

DJ Stutz  20:09  
Right. And in fact, those strategies work really well with even starting in kindergarten in first grade. And so they're starting to have those management skills early on that you're building again, that foundation that we're talking about. And so Okay, you've got these three things, which one are you going to do first? Rather than? Are you doing your homework?

Bridget Hom  20:30  
Yes, and but at the same time, I think it's really important to give them that freedom of understanding self management and learning it. But I also for us, in our family, there are some things that are non negotiables. Right. And I think as a parent, it's so important, especially, you know, in this day and age, sometimes we see everything is negotiable, because we want our children to make their own choices, right, which every parent wants the choices, but we have to teach them how to make their own choices and how to make good choices. And so there are some non negotiables that we have in our house, when we have family dinner, that's non negotiable. When we have church on Sundays, that's non negotiable, until you leave the house. Right, right. We did. Right? Those are two things that are non negotiable as long as you're in this house. And so, you know, some people will say, especially with the religion component, like, Well, why are you making them do this when they don't want to, when they get to a certain age after 12, they don't want to do anything. Right, oh, and ready to see that they're not going to want to do anything, but file it away, they're going to remember all the things that you trained them in. And so in those times of the nose, I don't want to do this, you know, it's for their good. Think about them. 20 years from now, when they might have their own children and say, okay, they want to introduce their kids, they're going to know how you're our job, I think, as a parent is to teach them how, how to the more and better that life has to offer and how to know love and serve God. And then they can choose not to do that later. But your job is to methodology that they can continue to grow in and thrive in because I'm sure and I'm well.

DJ Stutz  22:14  
It's funny, because my oldest daughter has chosen not to be a churchy person, right? And so she says, my mind never did want to go to church with you. So you never said anything about

it just because I knew the decision was made you like we went to church? Like, that's a good thing.

Bridget Hom  22:34  
Yes, and being not afraid of those conversations? Well, my background was ministry and journalism originally. And so I actually used to talk to a lot of people about their Faith Journeys, and giving them a space learning, like here. And when my children say this, it's like, My children, especially, oh, well, I don't believe that I said, you know, just because you don't believe in something doesn't change that it's true or not. I know, there's truth. And I started teaching them that. But in regards to talking to other people who are not my children, right, having those conversations, because it is different parenting and who you are with friends, family, acquaintances is different. Giving people that space of radical self acceptance, to figure out oh, well, what do you believe? Why do you believe that? And that space to question is really important, as well as with, especially teenagers, but holding that for them and then saying, Well, what of that? Look, follow it. Let me help you follow that train of thought?

DJ Stutz  23:40  
Really? Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I think to not freaking out when your six year old comes home, and he's really upset because Joey, hit him. And Sam said, he doesn't want to be his friend anymore. And the teacher said, I didn't do my painting, right, or whatever, you know. And so you got to realize he's talking about it from his point of view. But and so you want to help them expand on that? Asking questions so that he can start processing? What's going on? Why do you think Sam said that? Let's talk about this. And well, what did your teacher say was wrong with your work or whatever? And when you start asking some of those questions, you're helping them to now develop that strategy of thinking things through rather than just being upset. I'm mad right now. And so that's all that matters.

Bridget Hom  24:32  
Exactly. Well, I'm curious, I want to know what do you think the biggest problem of this generation will be for parents?

DJ Stutz  24:41  
You mean from the little kids that are growing up now?

Bridget Hom  24:44  
Yeah, and what is going to be the biggest battle for parents? What do you I just wanted to hear your thoughts

DJ Stutz  24:56  
Well, you know, I, I really believe that we're in In the stage right now with parenting, that it's kind of like let the kid be in charge in so many ways. And so well, you know, he didn't feel like this or that today, or she didn't want to do this or that. And we come and tend to have you heard the new term lawnmower parent? No, I haven't actually. Okay, so we've got the helicopter parent that comes in, comes down and fixes everything, right? Well,

the lawnmower parent is just blown everything out of the way, and the kids right behind them, you know, not even fixing any problem, my child will have no problems, and we're just gonna push everyone out of the way. You know, and they have a hard time understanding that. As a teacher, I would get this so often, you know, they would say, oh,

Joey's is complaining that Mikey is hitting him all the time. And he says mean things. And he comes home, and he's upset, and I don't want them together at all. And I'm kind of laughing inside as a teacher, because Joey and Mike your best friends. Even when I put them on the opposite ends of the room, they're gonna find way to get together. And so I think that with a lot of the parents that we have right now, we're not giving them the opportunity to go through a struggle, and have to figure out how to do it. And are we teaching them? Are we taking the time when things are calm? And taking the time to actually practice going through? If some If Joey takes your truck? You were playing with it? What are we going to do? And you can roleplay kids love role playing? And so I could be the main kid that's taking the truck. And so it's like, I got your truck,

what are you going to do?

But you do that in column times, you make them fun times. But we really need to give our kids the opportunity. If kids are arguing at the park, we jump right in, instead of oh, let's see where this goes.

Bridget Hom  27:10  
Yeah, I call that street justice in our house. Yes, there you

DJ Stutz  27:13  
go. There you go. And, yeah, I just think that men, we're seeing some of that showing now where we've got, and not not all, but we've got a good group of the society right now, that are not hard workers, they are not risk takers. They don't enjoy a challenge. They want everything to be easy and to come to them in easy ways. You know, I just think that that's part of what we're working with right now as parents is teaching, or with my parents is teaching them boundaries are good boundaries are important. And you don't have to scream and yell to hold a boundary. You just need to be firm. Stand your ground without yelling, and it works.

Bridget Hom  27:56  
Yeah, I'm not going to tell you I have had angry mommy moments. We all know it right. But I do tell myself pause with the purpose. Pause with the purpose and gain some perspective. Pause with the purpose. That's what I'll say sometimes pause with the purpose. And you know, I love what you just said, I've never heard the lawnmower return. But I it's so true. It's so true, because and here's why. Here's why I think that we've developed that parenting technique. I think it's because we're extremely distracted. And that's the fastest way to take care of something so that we can go back to the things that we are have to address right now. And so right now, as a culture, we're vacillating between survival and being entertained, right? And where we want to sit is in the intentionality. So how we do that and you know, a lot of strategies that I talk about all the title in my programs is intentionality who your being when you're doing, keep getting back to pause with a purpose, develop a direction, so you could make empowered decisions to arrive at the destination, you know, will you be happy if your life looks the same as it does today? 20 years from now, developing perspective and the power of the pause and helping us to get back to that place. Yes, you're going to work you're rushing here, you're rushing there to soccer practice all of those things. But where's the intentionality in your life? Right? Where's the intention? And so and being deliberate about that intentionality. And if you're a parent who's working, who gets off at 6pm, you could still have that intentionality. Again, it's just maybe you're gonna start implementing dinners together for 15 minutes. It doesn't have to be anything crazy, right? Doesn't have to look like anything crazy. But having a conversation. Our head spaces are going so fast because we're human doings right from the get go of the day. doing next is doing this now. Please don't connect while the human beings No, no. Exactly. And so the melodies were what we all want, I believe,

DJ Stutz  30:08  
right. And I think there's a saying, and I, I can't even tell you where I first heard it, but I've been using it for years now is don't like good things keep you from doing great things. And so it's not that the things that were involved when like starting our own business, or getting our kids off to 18 different practices a week or whatever, you know, they all might individually be good things, but what are we giving up? for that? Like, every time you say yes to something, you're saying no to something else? Yes, no. And so if you sit down in class, you're making those decisions, and saying, is what I'm saying yes to worth what I'm saying no to, which is the greater, and then you're going to have that intentionality. And you're going to make better decisions. And as you practice at it, it's going to become more and more a part of you. And easier to do when you first start it, it's going to take some time to sit in. Okay, let me just really wait this and think about it.

Bridget Hom  31:10  
Yes, and, you know, be okay with developing a family vision. Yes. involve the kids. What do you want our family time to look like? What are you love about our family? What do you wish would be different? And he not afraid, be not afraid of what the answers are, because your kids see everything. And they're going to be honest with you. And so, also the purpose when they give antisocial the purpose,

DJ Stutz  31:38  
when my kids were younger, we got together. And we took a few weeks in doing this, but we decided to make a family motto. And then

we made a flag dang with our motto, you know, with fabric paints, and you know, it looked awful, but we had fun with it. But the motto that we

came up with for our family was Have fun, be good, serve the Lord. And so we had that in our little flag, and we'd hang it in the rooms or whatever, and have fun with it. But I think there's value in coming up with a family motto. And then as you're making again, those decisions, whether it's about your business and what you're doing, or do we really need another practice, you know, another sport that we're involved in. And so how does it fit with our family motto? And I think that that's a really good strategy to use.

Bridget Hom  32:30  
I completely agree. I love that family motto. That's great. I'm gonna take that. Well, that's optimization. family motto, we also play the dinner table conversation card game, you can get on Amazon. Like if you were on old Island, what would you bring? You know, my oldest said, brilliant. My oldest goes, I'd bring a private jet and a pilot.

DJ Stutz  32:53  
Yes, very smart.

Bridget Hom  32:55  
You're all thinking of surviving. We're like pocket knives and machetes and like, suddenly opened coconuts. And he's like, I would bring a jet and a pilot. You're brilliant. You are, right.

DJ Stutz  33:10  
Yeah. Yeah, exactly. My husband be like, nothing because he doesn't like being around people. You'd be like, I'd be happy as a clam on a deserted island.

Bridget Hom  33:21  
My, my brain goes straight to survival. My other void, like, my middle is like, well, I just chill out. I bring some fishing poles. You know? It's so it's either mentalities. You know, survival. This one's like, Yeah, I'd get off the island. No worries.

DJ Stutz  33:39  
I love it. I love it. Such it's such great. Such great

ideas and opportunities. And

Bridget Hom  33:47  
yes, and the last thing I would say in terms of, of parenting, and in terms of being an intentional parent, it's okay to have quiet spaces have quiet moments. And we call that my 12 year old would call that boring times. So the boring times are okay. Because that's where we find that creativity, like you were saying, You need those times of silence of pause Yeah. So that we can reengage with our sense of being again, so that we can do doing well. And so and so my kids will say I'm really bored. I'm really bored. And I just let let it sit, let it ride and let them be bored. And then it's amazing to see what they come up with doing. And so before we give our kids the iPads before we give our kids something to entertain them, let them sit and see what they'll create and come up with.

DJ Stutz  34:42  
Right. You know, it's funny, I'm the oldest of seven, five boys and I have one sister and we learned really quick you do not tell Mom I am bored. She had a lot really because the bathroom is needed cleaning. You know the vacuuming needs done and all of this. She had a long lists we will learn very quickly, you don't say, bored, you find what you're gonna do?

Bridget Hom  35:06  
Yes, exactly. I have that list as well, by the way. Yeah, it's great. It's a great list. It's very, and the value of work, you know, I stopped. And allowances, I stopped giving allowances and then saying like, Look, you get free room and board here. You You can literally it's like you have everything taken care of these chores are are part of being a family unit, taking care of space. And so like, and they get lots of gifts for all the holidays, etc. And they travel with my ex husband, but it's just teaching them how am I teaching my child, the ethical behavior that I want them to practice when he leaves my house? And like being mindful? And having motto? am I teaching them the motto based on my behavior or my actions that I want them to take with them, and continuing to apply that ethical integrity to your business as well. Because when you have that balance when you see your business as a part of your life, right, when your business is a part of your life, that's when everything comes into perspective. Again, we don't have these business in the box mentality, family in the box mentality God in the box mentality, everything is connected. And so when we get to charity, we see that and we show up well, yeah.

DJ Stutz  36:25  
So Bridgette, let's talk for a minute about how our listeners can connect with you.

Bridget Hom  36:30  
Absolutely. So it's just Bridget hom.com is my website, you can connect with me on LinkedIn, which I greatly encourage you to do. So I can like and comment and share your posts. But if you want to get on my calendar, it's just Bridgette homme.me. And I'll give you some inspiration, some strategies direction for your life or your business.

DJ Stutz  36:52  
That's amazing. And of course, we're gonna get all of that information in the show notes and comments below. So be sure to check that out. And then of course, if you love what you're hearing on the show today, be sure to follow and like and tell a friend. So all of that's really important. Bridgette, I always ask my guests the same question as we come to a close on our episode is how would you describe a successful parent?

Bridget Hom  37:20  
A successful parent is one that is intentional. Yeah, it is intentional, that has a romance with life and is able to honor her rules every single day and want the best for their children.

DJ Stutz  37:36  
Absolutely. Absolutely. That is wonderful in a perfect way to come to a close. Thank you again so much. And I'm sure that we're going to be working together on other projects in the future. I'm looking forward to that. And so thank you so much for spending this time with us. 

Bridget Hom  37:52  
Thanks, DJ, this is awesome. 

DJ Stutz  37:54  
Oh, you're great. Bye everyone. And if you want to learn more about Bridgette and her book Stuck on Ready, master the entrepreneur mindset break free of self sabotage, and access your limitless potential, you can find all the information in the show notes below. And then you're gonna hit that follow button to make sure you're getting in on the amazing episodes that we have each week. And if you liked what you heard in today's podcast, be sure to rate and review and tell a friend. And if you do this, I do have that special gift for you. So I'll send you a digital copy of my living in kindness, a journey, a journal and a workbook. And this workbook is going to guide you through five areas of kindness, and help you make that a part of your life and your family traditions. So on the website of the podcast, you might be there already. It's www.imperfectheroespodcast.com. Just click at the top on reviews, and then you're going to click on leave a review. And it's that easy. So I thought you might like to know I am again, a featured speaker at a summit. And this one is the Resilient Women's Leadership Summit. And this summit is running from June 14 to 18. This is free to attend. And you're going to have access to workshops from successful women from all over the world. And the registration link is in the show notes below. And next week, my guest is going to be Deborah Holic and we're talking about an interesting new concept. Living in Wow. So check it out and see and until next time, let's find joy in parenting.

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